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A Day in the Life of an Intergroup Secretary

I have to tell you that I get a small thrill when I receive a message from Dorothy at our ccioa@onebox.com that there is a request to be added to our e-blast list. I’m not sure if its because I enjoy database work (weird) or if its because I love growing the list of members, but I do get a little too excited when I receive these emails. This will probably be the little thing that I’ll miss most when I pass off the secretary position to the next member. Since I began tracking in mid-2022, we’ve added 62 new addresses, for a current total of 335.

So, my day as Secretary begins with prayer and meditation, as it says in Step 11, and that actually begins with opening my emails to see what the daily meditation is for me. (That’s when I get to see those messages from Dorothy!)  I most likely will add the address later in the day. I do my best to not send out more than two e-blasts per month, including the Intergroup agenda materials – but often there are flyers/events that we need to be sure the fellowship is aware of. I do not like to bombard members in-boxes with a lot of stuff and I often wonder who even bothers to look at the materials – which truly are informative and helpful, although everything is also eventually posted at our website as well!

According to the Intergroup Bylaws, the Secretary has specific duties, including recording minutes, give notice of meetings, distributing a copy of the agenda, file all resumes of group reps, serve on the Executive Board, etc. (Bylaws, Rev 6/2020). As you are aware, these things I do – some with great delight, i.e., file all resumes. I love to receive a resume (conveniently via email!) to add a new rep to our growing roster – currently 17 registered voters) and then, the best part – I mail them a Welcome New Representative folder!  (Old secretaries die hard – but I do enjoy busy work…)  I enjoy filling up the bright orange pocket folders with a copy of the Intergroup Bylaws, Policy and Procedures, Responsibilities of a Group Representative, Committee Descriptions, current roster of committee chairs, copies of the OA Steps, Traditions and Concepts, as well as the Spiritual Principles of each, and, of course, a welcome letter on behalf of the Board. It does make me feel a sense of accomplishment when I do these small services.

As far as minutes – I have never enjoyed these, which were a major function of my 20-year career – however they are a necessary evil. Minutes can be provided in a variety of ways – simple note taking, bullet points – or as I do, recording every bit of business as though someone who was not in attendance can know exactly what occurred at the meeting. I’m wordy – but that, like it or not, is my nature. As Intergroup Secretary, I record the minutes for the monthly board meeting (first Monday) as well as the intergroup meeting (third Sunday). These I generally put off until the last minute (again, my nature) but so far I have been able to provide them in a timely manner – as per the bylaws. The terrific thing today is that even if I am unable to attend a meeting, the meeting can be recorded, and minutes transcribed from there. One day it will probably be possible for minutes to type themselves. Hallelujah!

When my term as secretary began, the responsibilities were sparse. However, my conscience told me I could take on more and relieve others a bit. So, I assumed the task of creating the agenda, which meant I needed to be aware of what should be discussed and get input from the other officers.  The Chair always approves my draft prior to distribution. As our Standing Rules state, all OA members are invited to place an item on the agenda – but it must be submitted in writing prior to the intergroup meeting. Another task that is not included in the secretary duties, officially, is maintaining the meeting list. Currently this is provided by a member of the Twelve Step Within Committee, but I believe this assignment could be revisited.

Speaking of committees – all intergroup representatives are expected to participate on a committee, and this includes officers. I serve on the “Super Committee” – with a special focus on Twelve Step Within. This is very close to my heart, which feels so sad when members drift away. When I entered these rooms at the age of 30, I knew it was the last house on the block and had no doubt that I had come home – so when I see a member “get it” – and then disappear, I am pained. I do what I can, which is simply to reach out and say hello and let them know the door is always open whenever they want to walk back in.

Well, that’s it. I have put off doing this essay (because, as you know, that is my nature) but it’s really a simple service – and doesn’t really take much of the day. Especially when I reach out to my Higher Power and ask Him to take over – and give me the words.

With gratitude and respect.

– Jo A., Intergroup Secretary

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A Grateful Rep

I arrived to Fall Assembly without my suitcase. I left the darn thing at my house. HP put an outlet mall across the street! I did not need to admit defeat. Shopped and went upscale and not Goodwill (my pal). I am grateful to be clothed in new clothes. Acceptance and hope. HP is with me always and he knows I lose my way sometimes.

– Lynn H.

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Keep Coming Back, A Suggestion from Rozanne

In 1997 I attended the World Convention of OA held in New York, NY. I was fortunate enough at the time to have been invited to speak at a workshop being held during the convention. I spoke a lot in those days, so I wasn’t particularly nervous about having to speak in front of such a large gathering. However, as I began my speaking, I happened to look in the back of the room and noticed our cofounder Rozanne sitting in the audience! Suddenly, I became very nervous! Here I was, 10 years into a pretty solid recovery, but yet felt nervous that someone who had been such an inspiration to me, was sitting there, seemingly hanging onto every word I said. Well, I got through the presentation, and afterwards went up to Rozanne, who had just published her new book ” Beyond Our Wildest Dreams”, which I had purchased at the event. I introduced myself to Rozanne, and she was gracious and humble, and signed my book, and it said ” Ed, Keep Coming Back”. I never forgot meeting Rozanne, and I took her advice for more than another 10 years! Alas, in 2002, I fell into relapse, and made the fateful decision to stop going to meetings! It took 10 years before I would eventually return! Unfortunately, after just a year of returning to OA, I left the room again in 2013, and did not return until I moved to Kentucky in 2017, finally returning in April of 2018. I have been actively attending meetings every since! I often find myself thinking of Roanne’s advice to me, and how my life might have been better had I never left the rooms? But OA has taught me that we will not regret the past or wish to shut the door on it; and we will see how our experience can benefit others. The PIPO committee was formed in an effort to bringing the OA message to the public, via specific outreach, such as public media, and even word-of-mouth. All of us who have been given this miracle of recovery, are charged with trying to carry this message to those who still suffer. Rozanne dedicated her life to carrying this message; God willing, I intend to spend the remainder of my life carrying this message! We don’t have to be perfect, we just have to be willing to do what we can, when we can! There is so much hope in OA, and for a hopeless compulsive overeater like myself, hope was what I needed when I first came into the program in 1987, and hope is what keeps me in these rooms 36 years later! Tell every newcomer, and returning members, the three most important words ever uttered at an OA meeting, is to just Keep Coming Back, no matter what, please, Keep Coming Back!

– Ed L.

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Voices of Recovery, page 204

“. . . when I’m abstinent, I feel good; when I’m into the food, my life is unmanageable”

With over seventeen years in program, I have seen and done it all. My food plans have gone from reasonable adherence, to full out dishonesty. I have had significant abstinence and terrible relapses. My mind and body belong to two different people during these wild swings.

But ultimately, I have learned that when I am honestly abstinent, I feel so much better in many ways. My head is clear. My body is stronger. I have more energy. I am more optimistic about the world around me. It does not mean that my life is trouble free – far from it. But learning to meditate and let go of the things I cannot change helps a lot. That is still a work in progress, and I will not solve all the problems in my little corner of the world. But letting go, one day at a time can give me one day of peace.

When I am abstinent, I live with gratitude, not resentment. Despite some family struggles. I keep plugging along.  

When I am in relapse and heavily into the sugar, I am a very different person. I often wonder why my husband stayed with me all those years. And it wasn’t just my weight, my obesity and size 3X clothes. I was impatient with him, the kids and other people, places, and things.  I was angry a lot and in looking back, I don’t know why.  I had a wonderful husband, four great children and a roof over my head. Something many people would appreciate.

My disease, which I didn’t know I had, was percolating and growing inside of me.

But I can’t look back and change the past. All I can do is focus on today and be grateful that I found OA when I did. Thank you H.P.

– Carol B.

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Where Does the Money go…

Region 5 uses the guidance of the Twelve Steps, Twelve Traditions, and Twelve Concepts of Overeaters Anonymous to manage contributions from groups and individuals.
The Bylaws and Policies and Procedures of Region 5 contain most of the practical guidelines for the way funds are collected and used.

Because the Groups and Intergroups in Region 5 have different numbers and different amounts of money in their budgets, we put aside funds to support Representatives to Region Assembly and Delegates to the World Service Business Conference.

Funding to support Intergroups to send Representatives to Region 5 Assembly:
For 2023 we included $4000.00 in scholarship funds. The funds are mainly for Intergroups with a bank balance of less than $1000. Intergroups can request up to $300 per year to cover rooms and travel expenses. Because there are no specific guidelines on this in the Bylaws or the Policies and Procedures, the Assembly or the Officers have the ability to increase these amounts if an Intergroup needs more support. The Intergroup should send the request to the Region 5 Treasurer 30 days before the Assembly. The Representative Funding Request form is on the Region 5 website at: Financial Resources – Region 5 of Overeaters Anonymous (region5oa.org)

Delegates to World Service Business Conference:
Region 5 supports delegates to World Service Business Conference in two ways.

First, the Region has funds specifically for Intergroups to fund their delegates to WSBC. In 2023 we budgeted $5000 for this. Since this money goes to the Intergroup, the Intergroup decides who will be the delegates, how they are elected, and what responsibility they have to the Intergroup after the Conference.

Second, Region 5 is allowed to send up to 5 Region delegates directly to WSBC. This occurs if less than 40% of our intergroups were present at the previous World Service Business Conference (you can find this information in our Bylaws). The delegates must meet all the other requirements for a delegate. The ideal is to send people from intergroups that would not otherwise be represented at the Conference. In 2023 the Assembly agreed to put $4000 into the budget for Region delegates.

The same application is used both for Intergroup and Region Delegates. Notice of Region funding is given in advance and Intergroups are asked to return the applications by October 1 so that the Board can allocate the funds prior to the fall Region 5 Assembly.

If there aren’t enough Region 5 delegate applications, there are two options – the Fall Assembly can take nominations from the floor or, if there still aren’t enough applications by the time Registration for the World Service Business Conference opens, the Board can appoint members to fill the positions. The Delegate Support Fund Application is available on the Region 5 website at: IGDelegateSupportFund2023.pdf

For the last 3 years the funds to support Intergroup Representatives to Region 5 Assembly have not been used.
During the Covid-19 pandemic, delegate funds were used for two extra Region 5 delegates to World Service Business Conference. In 2023 4 Region Delegates were selected to attend and three were funded.

SOOOOO…. Region 5 always tries to use your funds to support the groups and Intergroups that make up our Region. Part of the money you contribute is used for scholarships and funding support. We invite each Intergroup to look at their funds and consider applying for support to bring more representatives to Region 5 Assembly and more delegates to World Service Business Conference. Service is an important tool in our OA toolbox – everyone should use it!

– Linda P., Region 5 Treasurer

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Concept One – Unity

The ultimate responsibility and authority for OA world services reside in the collective conscience of our whole Fellowship.

As I read this and the explanation in “The Twelve Concepts of OA Service,” I have learned that I take responsibility of what is mine and let go of the rest. This has to do with my continuous everyday recovery. Working my 10th step with my sponsor and staying abstinent. Talking about what is making me rumble inside and listening to my sponsor.

My issue of not trusting people is something that has come up for healing through my service work in OA. I need to listen to other points of view with an open mind and continue to check in with my Higher Power. At times, when I get confused about what other people’s opinions are [especially if they are a strong personality] and I do not agree with them, I don’t have to get angry, talk bad about them making sure others understand how wrong the other person is.

I need to process this with my sponsor and get clear about what my intuition is telling me. I may still get voted down on some issue. That is okay. I check my ego at the door of service work. It does come up, and I have to look at the steps and traditions talk to my sponsor and keep Unity in OA. THat does not mean that I have to agree with everyone. We can agree to disagree and substantial unanimity rules.

I need to continue to take responsibility for myself. Concept one does this. It helps me to keep the focus on me, taking responsibility for what is mine and let go of the rest. For me, trust blossoms in this concept. Trusting others and trusting myself to make decisions that will help the next compulsive overeater who still suffers.

My Higher Power is taking care of what I can’t and I let go of my control. When I need to speak up, I have learned in the last few years, that I speak up. Everyone may not agree with me and that is okay. I have to speak my truth and others need to do the same. That’s what keeps our fellowship united and keeps recovery strong in Overeaters Anonymous.

– Anonymous

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World Service Business Conference Report by Sheryl G.

I am grateful for the opportunity to attend the 2023 WSBC Conference representing Region 5 as a Delegate. I was considered a Green Dot (first time attendee), even though I had attended WSBC ages ago (over 20+ years ago). I was asked by another attendee if things had changed immensely since the last time I was there. I had to honestly state, many things were different, but there were also several things that remained the same.

I am excited to serve on the Conference Approved Literature Committee. I was impressed by the structure of the committee and how it runs like a well-oiled machine. Two pieces of new literature were being considered on the floor at this conference: “Diverse Voices: A Common Solution” and “Sponsorship in OA: Guiding Others Into Recovery”. Additionally, the committee had one piece already in the publication process: “OA Handbook for Members, Groups, and Service Bodies”, as well as one piece that the committee is working towards completing: “The Twelve Traditions Workshop and Study Guide”. I was pleased to be placed on the sub-committee working on that last piece of literature. During the Business Session, the two pieces of new literature were voted on. “Diverse Voices” was passed and “Sponsorship in OA” was defeated.

During the conference I visited the Reference Committee a couple of times to see how the process of discussion and recommendations coming from that committee were arrived at. The process was very interesting to observe, and I learned a lot just from observing.

Prior to conference, I was a bit overwhelmed by the 400+ page Delegate Binder that was sent to me in PDF format via emailed website. I downloaded it and began reading the week before conference. I am really glad I did, as I was somewhat familiar with the binder when I got to Albuquerque and got a physical copy of the binder that I could mark up and put sticky tabs all throughout to mark important sections. Especially helpful were the sections on Parliamentary Procedure terms and the Business Glossary of terms.

Some of the votes on Policy Motions and ByLaws Proposals did not go the direction that I had anticipated. It was enlightening to hear pros and cons and the variety of clarification questions that were entertained for many of the motions. In some instances, it changed my initial inclinations regarding the motions. Ultimately, the prevailing vote was always in favor of what was best for the good of OA as a whole.

I have grown and my program was strengthened as a result of attending the conference. It was good to end the conference with a nice banquet dinner together with the other delegates, followed by a dance and lots of fellowship with other recovering compulsive eaters. This is always a good time and I really enjoyed myself. Again, I want to thank Region 5 for affording me the opportunity to serve.

– Yours in service, Sheryl G.

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World Service Business Conference Report by Diane A

To say that the Conference was exhilarating and exhausting, intense and informative, stressful and satisfying all at once, along with fun and fellowship doesn’t seem to cover it all! Yet, that is exactly how I would describe the privilege of having done service for Region 5 at this year’s World Service Business Conference.

Though having attended 2 other Conferences, one in the mid 90’s in Los Angeles and one in 2000 in Albuquerque, I do not recall the level of participation in the process that I had the opportunity of doing this year. We were sent to Conference well prepared by the World Service Office with a download of materials (400+ pages) to review of agendas, proposals, reports, glossary of parliamentary procedure of terms, workshops and OA meetings to attend throughout the week of Conference. Upon arrival we received a binder of all of those materials to assist us through the week of meetings. The entire week was well organized and there were so many Delegates, Trustees, Chairpersons and volunteers to assist answering any questions that we had.

Each Delegate participated on a committee and I had requested to be on the Bylaws Committee. The committee was then divided into subcommittees. Though I have very little knowledge of technology, I felt comfortable working with those who do have the expertise and I could assist by being the secretary of the group. This subcommittee will be working throughout the next year on ways to improve accessibility to the World Service, Inc Bylaws and Policies by way of developing an index of terms and links to quickly find information in the Bylaws and Policies, rather than, as it is now, viewing a pdf and scrolling through pages and pages to find pertinent information. The first step is for the subcommittee’s chairperson to contact the WSO Webmaster to determine feasibility. Our first subcommittee meeting will be on June 3, 2023.

Additionally, I was asked to serve on the Reference Subcommittee of the Bylaws Committee. This subcommittee provides a forum of discussion of New Business motions and Bylaws amendments. Its primary purpose is to provide problem-solving opportunities before the item is brought to, or returned to the Conference floor. (excerpt from “Reference Subcommittee Guidelines”). We met from early morning, through lunch time, dinner time and into the late evening hours between Business Sessions. After listening to makers of the original motions, and those members submitting amendments to those motions during or before Conference, questions are asked of those members proposing amendments by members of the Reference subcommittee, as well as non-reference subcommittee members for a period of time. Once all have been heard, the Reference subcommittee then begins a caucus of discussion to establish a consensus with all parties who have proposed an amendment/motion, to help with proper wording and eliminate duplication where similar motions are presented. I really enjoyed the work of this process, as it was more than just “word-smithing”. It embodied principles over personalities for the greater good of OA as a whole. Members from all Regions around the world were on this subcommittee to offer their input and perspective as it relates to global and diverse issues affecting everyone’s recovery. No final decision is made by this subcommittee; rather, that final outcome depends on the votes of Delegates when it returns to the Conference floor.

The two and a half days of Business Sessions were a true study in Principles over Personalities. Not all of the Proposals that were intended to be on the Conference floor for a vote made it there. Consideration for which ones, due to time constraints, needing to be heard were given priority. For me, the most impressive decision of all made by the entire body took place on the last day at the very end of the Conference. Two Bylaws proposals affecting Countries outside of the United States and Canadian Regions, involving National Service Boards, Intergroups and their geographic and Virtual Regions was on the floor to be voted. A motion was made to extend the closing of the Conference by 30 minutes so that more time could be given to hear Pros and Cons and to ask more questions about these concerns.

Members wanted more information to understand the issues in order to make an informed vote on behalf of those Countries on the other side of the planet! To me, that is Program in action, to extend the Hand and Heart of OA – for this I am responsible.

– Yours gratefully in service, Diane A.

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World Service Business Conference Report by Evelyn S.

It was my privilege to attend this conference as a delegate representing the Chicago West Intergroup Farout (CHI-WIF) and Region 5. Much work was accomplished by and for the members and for OA as a whole. The theme and focus of this conference was “Concepts of Service: The Heart of Fellowship”. In attendance were a total of 176 delegates representing 14 different countries, including Italy, Greece, Israel, Iran, Brazil, Columbia, Spain, Sweden, Russia, Ukraine, Australia, United Kingdom, Canada, and the United States. Also being represented were several Virtual intergroups, including Young Peoples, Men’s, and Footsteps.

Much emphasis was given to the topics of Unity and Inclusiveness, and delegates were reminded that our discussions and our voting should be “for the good of OA as a whole”, to benefit all current and future members. As a new delegate, I appreciated the camaraderie and support we all received, as it was confusing and stressful at times to understand the proposals and motions and even the whole process. The other thing I appreciated and found so helpful as a first time attendee was being assigned a Mentor for the week, someone who has attended WSBC & wants to help the “newbies”. My mentor was from the Philadelphia PA area and she was great, explaining what was happening and what things meant, always doing it with humor and gentleness. She reminded me several times that I was supposed to be confused with it all and to just relax and do my best. We shared a few meals and down time together, and we are still in contact. This was another example of how “together we can do what we cannot do alone” in OA.

The conference process was amazing and so well organized. We would start each business session with the Serenity Prayer, and delegates from outside the U.S were invited to say the prayer in their own language. A touching moment for me with this was when the 2 delegates from Russia and the Ukraine stood in front of the whole assembly, held hands, and said this prayer in their own languages, then hugged each other. Beautiful! Then we got to the work of dealing with and voting on all the many proposals and motions included in our 462-page delegate binder. Parliamentary procedures were used throughout all the sessions, with pros and cons presented for each motion, as well as opportunities for questions. Everything was also timed and strictly adhered to. The chair of the Board of Trustees presided at all sessions, with support from all the trustees on the dais and a professional parliamentarian to make sure we followed protocol. At times, there was some tension and disagreement and strong opinions voiced with some of the proposals, but cooler heads prevailed after we paused to say the Serenity Prayer or the 3rd Step Prayer.

PROPOSALS/VOTING (there were several more than cited here)
1) A new book “Diverse Voices: A Common Solution” about recovery of underrepresented OA members was presented for publication. MOTION ADOPTED.

2) A second new book “Sponsorship in OA: Guiding Others into Recovery” was proposed to replace 2 sponsorship pamphlets. MOTION DEFEATED. Committee will review/rewrite and may be proposed next year.

3) Proposal to not use acronyms on all future official communications to service bodies, to avoid confusion in language translation. MOTION ADOPTED.

4) Proposal to change wording & definitions of open & closed and special-focus meetings in policy manuals. Motion was split into 2 motions, then wording “Specific” was added to “Focus” & “Topic” meetings, and “Meetings with Visitors” and “Meetings without Visitors” be used to define current “Open & Closed” meetings. BOTH MOTIONS ADOPTED.

5) Proposal to increase maximum member contribution per year from $5000 to $7500. MOTION ADOPTED.

6) Two Proposals to give OA Conference Approval to Alcoholics Anonymous literature. First one included just the AA Big Book & the AA 12/12. Second proposal included all AA Conference-approved literature. FIRST MOTION FAILED. SECOND MOTION PASSED.

COMMITTEES

Delegates were also assigned to committees, to work on issues & goals “for the good of OA as a whole”, that they developed in this conference. Committees will meet during the year and submit their work for review to the Board of Trustees for consideration at next year’s World Service Business Conference. I was assigned to the 12th Step Within committee (TSW) on a subcommittee that will review materials in the Documents Library of OA.org website and encourage members to use our website. Other TSW committee goals: to encourage intergroups to develop a 12 Step Within committee to grow service through workshops & sponsor banks; to develop greater awareness & encouragement of OA’s International 12 Step Within Day on 12/12 through flyers & workshops.

WORKSHOPS

The Conference also included several workshops, mainly focusing on the theme of Service. Presenters from Israel and St.Louis stressed the importance of service to keep OA strong and united, especially since we are a global organization. They shared ideas on how to do this, such as workshops, visits to other meeting, and inviting sponsees to step up.

TRUSTEES

All Conference delegates were introduced to and given the duty of voting in new Trustees for the Board. 10 open positions, with 6 candidates vying. All 6 candidates were voted in by the body of delegates present.

A 7th Step collection was also collected from the delegates, totalling $2477.75.

On the last day of the Conference, all “Green Dots” were brought to the front of the ballroom and introduced and congratulated for attending. We removed our dots & were warmly cheered by the veteran delegates. We survived!

– Report respectfully submitted by Evelyn S.

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What is in My Head?

“What’s in my head?” Disappointment, desire, wistfulness, resentment, restriction
Wondering

Believing, trusting, honoring, resting, stepping, leaning
Arriving

I am in God’s arms for today!

– Yvonne C